survival techniques. 

breaking up is no fun. whether you are the dumper or dumpee, getting dumped is the worst and getting blindsided- getting dumped unexpectedly? even worse. im going to assume in this post that you have already identified the serious problems in your relationship and your ship is sinking. once your ship is going down, its best to let it sink, cut your losses because flawed relationships are a loosing battle. we know what its like to loose, so lets not do that anymore, ok? 

first things first, erase it. seriously, do it right now. erase his number, his emails, and anything else you could use to contact him. next, get rid of/throw out everything that reminds you of him. true story: when my ex dumped me, that DAY! i took all the the crap he gave to me, all the pictures we took together, all the clothes i had of his, boxed it up, and shipped it to him. i didnt want anything that reminded me of him, our relationship had sunk and i wasnt going to dwell on the past because ive already been there, and i wasnt going back.

the one breakup remedy i will stand by til the day i am taken off the market is, you must, fill. the. void. whether he left, or you used those great legs to walk out you were left with a whole in your life where he used to be. you must fill it. if you dont, youll default back to him every time, i guarantee it. youll make that call  or send that text that you will regret because he ignored your call and sent you to voicemail, and he never responded back. its only a matter of whether its your choice now or his choice later, at some point he will stop taking your calls and meet someone else. remember, no unnecessary pain. so- fill the void! do anything to keep him from the thought of your mind, distract yourself with something good. join the gym, like i did! start volunteering, like i did! learn to play a musical instrument, get a puppy, start a blog, like i did! load your ipod up with cool new songs, call your sister every time you wanna call him. (thanks apes, love you) rent all the seasons of the office and enjoy yourself, go buy some new clothes that are hands down 'man killers' or some, 'just try and resist me' jeans. whatever you do, and ill say it again, and again, and again, fill! the! void! you have to, you must.
every relationship you ever have wont work out, until you find the one that does. and when you do find 'the one' the difference between that relationship and the others youve had before will be profound beyond belief.    marilyn monroe said 'sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together' keep believing, youll get through this because if youre brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello. and that hello might look like this:



                                             
             ..now wouldnt that be a nice hello.