girls dont speak dutch. 

men love a challenge that why they play sports, fight wars, and raid corporations. the worst thing you can do for a guy is to make things easy, they feel really good when they work hard to get you, dont take that away from them.  therefore, dont go halfway. friends and colleagues meet halfway, so in that case nudge away, friendster. but men, real men pick up women at their apartments or offices for dates, and always make the place convenient for you, they dont care where you live. i want to talk a bit about the first few, dinner dates and what to do when the waiter drops your check, says 'no rush, guys' and then it just sits there, staring at both of you in awkward silence. its not that women arent capable of paying for themselves, its just chivalrous. equality and dutch treat are fine in the workplace, but not in the romantic playing field. think of it this way- love is easy when the man pursues the woman and pays for the woman most of the time. he feels that the money he spends on food, the movie, and the cabs is the price of being with you and it's worth every penny. you should feel honored, happy, not guity, girlfriend. however the remedy if your guilt sinks in: offer to pay the tip! or say the date is an especially long one: dinner, a show, and three cab rides later... pay for something small along the way. dont pay for anything on the first three dates.  later on you can reciprocate in your own way, maybe by cooking him dinner at your place! remember, he is deriving great pleasure from taking you out. why deprive him of the joy of being/feeling chivalrous. actually, the best way to repay him is just to be appreciative. say thank you and please! to the guys who think that girls are just using them to get a free meal...youre an idiot. a guy resistant to spending what, twenty five bones over dinner? is guarded, stingy, and protective of his pride and money. sound like a guy you wanna go out with? nope! so avoid those ones like the plague. the guy that told me 'most men wont feel comfortable with letting the woman pay, its a threat to our masculinity' understands the concept.